Husbands Like To Be Respected & Wives Loved

Hi,

I attended a church wedding and the pastor shared with us, based on his years of counselling, that Husbands like to be Respected and Wives like to be Loved.

If we can do it well, our marriage will definitely last long.

This is important and you may thinking that this has nothing to do with bringing up your children....?

If you think so, you are wrong!

Parents are the nucleus of the family and if the Husband & Wife do not get along or love each other then how can we be a good role model or even love our children well.

So think about it......

Have a good day too!

David

Parents Are Their Children Role Models

Hi,

I just saw an advertisement showing that children is likely to smoke if their parents are smokers.

Why?

I suppose it goes with this saying, Monkey See Monkey Do.....?

How to tell your children that it is wrong to smoke when the parents are smoking right in front of them or when caught smoking behind their backs!

So Parents, please remember that we are all role models to our children.

I like to decide what I am wearing for work and hang my clothes out the night before. So that I do not have to stress my brain too much when I just woke up early in the morning...ha....ha....

I notice that Jason also hangs his school uniform out the evening before though in his case, it is always the same type of clothes for school. He also started to pack his gear required for his CCA too so as not to rush in the early morning and forgets an item.

I asked him why he does so and he replied with the same reason that I mentioned above; being organised.

I believe that I have influenced him by my actions or that he observed and unknowingly adopted my practice too.

So being role models, we must be on our best so that our children will pick up the good habits from us.

Happy parenting!

David

The Family CEO - Building a Happy and Successful Family

Hi,

My wife and I attended a talk on retirement matters and we have this speaker talking about family issues.

He was Simon Sim and we enjoyed his talk tremendously.

I went to look for his book, The Family CEO - Building a Happy and Successful Family, and found it in our Bedok community library.























I found it very easy to read and it is also so localised that we, Singaporeans, should be able to associate with what he wrote.





















There are a few salient points that I remembered from his talk and his book.

One of them was that my wife, or your spouse, is like a 'freehold property' as you will age and retire with her but your kids are 'leasehold property' as they will leave you after 18 or 21 years of age. So invest more time to build a lasting relationship with your spouse than your kids.

I think it is very true though parents tend to make a lot of sacrifices for their kids even if at the expense of their spouses.

Another point is that if we repeat what we say to our kids, they will consider it as nagging! Ha...ha....

And we worry so much about PSLE but we should be focusing on his PSLE which means Please Show Love and Encouragement to your kids instead.

The book is a good read and highly recommended but I cannot totally agree that I would or could follow his approach in bringing up his kids; eg his kids have to pay their own way to tertiary education by working part-time, etc.....

So check it out and happy reading.....

David