This Fathers Action Network (FAN), a newly formed network is funded by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS).
FAN is to drive the "Dads for Life Movement" that aims to get fathers more involved with their children.
Mr Richard Seow, the chairman of FAN, says that FAN want to make people aware issues of fatherhood, and to get them to make a commitment to spend time with their family and kids.
Mr Seow further said that " Whether it's values, work ethic or sex education, you can't expect schools to take over. Don't outsource the fathering, don't let Game Boy or the Xbox take away the time the father should be spending with the child".
I totally agree with the statement above.
During our younger days, our fathers are busy working and our mothers are solely responsible for our upbringing but there are also fathers who still managed to spend sufficient time with their children.
Unfortunately, I was brought up by mainly by grandma and aunties in Penang as my parents lived all over Malaysia due to his job postings. As there were less external distractions and having a very strict grandma, my siblings and I turned out reasonably well.
But having said that, we do not have many memories of times we spent with our parents. Sad but this was due to the circumstances then.
Glad to say that my siblings & I are spending much more time with our own children.
However, it is still very true that the husband is seen as the one working his ass off to bring home the bacon.
And many fathers think that it is not their responsible to care for their children and it is mother's job.
Anyway, the world has changed and the children does need their fathers too.
Happy Parenting.....!
David
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Born Innocent
Hi,
This was the main feature in this week, Mind Your Body; a supplement that comes with The Strait Times.
It mentioned that experiences, environment and society will shape a child's perception of what is right and wrong, according to a psychologist.
I totally agreed with the editor that we, parents, should be a busybody for our children's sake.
In case you missed it, here is a summary of some key messages....
Consistency is key to imparting values you want your child to have.
Here is a few pointers on how parents can influence their children's moral values:
- Show, do not just tell
Younger children understand the concepts of love and care best in the form of hugs, kisses and other forms of physical intimacy.
- Engage his empathy
We should use feeling laden statements to reinforce the child's ideas about what is right; eg. You were so kind when you shared your cookies with your classmates.
- Dig behind the bad behaviour
Children sometimes behave badly to test the limits, to express their anger or to seek attention.
- Do as I do, do as I say
Parents need to share their values with their children. How parents behave also modifies the child's perceptions of right and wrong.
- Teach accountability
Children should learn that their actions have consequences. Typical children will show remorse, feel guilt and learn from their mistakes.
I know most of us may feel that it is easy said than done but you must find the time and commitments to want to do it, in the first place.
Happy parenting........!
David
This was the main feature in this week, Mind Your Body; a supplement that comes with The Strait Times.
It mentioned that experiences, environment and society will shape a child's perception of what is right and wrong, according to a psychologist.
I totally agreed with the editor that we, parents, should be a busybody for our children's sake.
In case you missed it, here is a summary of some key messages....
Consistency is key to imparting values you want your child to have.
Here is a few pointers on how parents can influence their children's moral values:
- Show, do not just tell
Younger children understand the concepts of love and care best in the form of hugs, kisses and other forms of physical intimacy.
- Engage his empathy
We should use feeling laden statements to reinforce the child's ideas about what is right; eg. You were so kind when you shared your cookies with your classmates.
- Dig behind the bad behaviour
Children sometimes behave badly to test the limits, to express their anger or to seek attention.
- Do as I do, do as I say
Parents need to share their values with their children. How parents behave also modifies the child's perceptions of right and wrong.
- Teach accountability
Children should learn that their actions have consequences. Typical children will show remorse, feel guilt and learn from their mistakes.
I know most of us may feel that it is easy said than done but you must find the time and commitments to want to do it, in the first place.
Happy parenting........!
David
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